tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6116581434178240226.post8704654303976713557..comments2014-06-04T04:38:12.589-07:00Comments on Tangents & Tangles: What it Feels Like...Tangents & Tangles:http://www.blogger.com/profile/09441419479591625040noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6116581434178240226.post-21992065757175176412009-08-28T09:46:33.806-07:002009-08-28T09:46:33.806-07:00I am so very sorry to hear about your grandmother!...I am so very sorry to hear about your grandmother! I wish there was something I could say or do to make the pain go away, but I can't. All I can say is, I have an idea of what you're going through. Last sunday I had to put my dog of 14 years to sleep. I keep going through feelings of numbness to the dropped-heart feeling you so perfectly described. <br />It's natural to hurt, and it's going to hurt for a while. but I'm sure your grandma would want you to be happy, so it will be OK to laugh again someday. or at least that's what i keep telling myself about sparky.<br />anyway, i don't know if any of this made sense, I'm still reeling from his death and my mind feels muddled (among other things)<br />Hang in there! <3<3<3 *giant hug*fallingrockethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12622733314441564122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6116581434178240226.post-88023875476048270812009-08-23T11:22:44.032-07:002009-08-23T11:22:44.032-07:00Thank you so much... I really appreciate what you&...Thank you so much... I really appreciate what you've said. It makes a difference. <br /><br />Hmmm...I had not considered that about her ashes. I am struggling with the whole thing...the whole body-vessel-spirit thing troubles me. I can't even put it into words...but something about her body being incinerated seems kind of... Well, I don't like the idea of embalming/burying either. I think I'd like to be shot into the sun! Theh LifeGem idea is interesting to me, but I don't know that I could go through with it. I think my whole family wants her ashes to be right next to my Grandpa, because that is what she wanted. Tomorrow...Tangents & Tangles:https://www.blogger.com/profile/09441419479591625040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6116581434178240226.post-75502078147890530422009-08-21T08:17:43.742-07:002009-08-21T08:17:43.742-07:00I get it. I have no words to offer to make that h...I get it. I have no words to offer to make that hole shrink up a bit because I get it. And I'm sorry. It's going to hurt for a bit. There will be days when you feel like you're making progress, only to fall apart completely soon after. And it's okay. Do it. The best way out is through, even though that's usually the hardest and most painful way as well.<br /><br />Have you considered keeping a small portion of her ashes so that you can have a bit of her with you? I knew a woman years ago whose son had lost a hard battle with Leukemia. She kept some of his ashes in a little pouch around her neck (yes, I know), and when she found a place she thought he'd really like, she's sprinkle some of the ashes there so that he could be a part of that space. I always liked the idea of that. (Of course, I also love the idea of the LifeGem diamonds.)Ms. Pantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00996429147094135624noreply@blogger.com